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• Inability to know what "normal" is.

• Difficulty in following a project through.

• Difficulty having fun.

• Judging self, others without mercy.

• Low self esteem, often projected onto others.
  (eg: Why don't they get their act together!)

• Difficulty in developing or sustaining meaningful relationships.

• Belief that others cause or are responsible for the codependent's emotions.

  (Codependents often use language like "you make me feel ______", or "I was made to feel like ____")

• Overreacting to change. (or intense fear of / inability to deal with change.)

• Inability to see alternatives to situations, thus responding very impulsively.

• Constantly seeking approval and affirmation, yet having compromised sense of self.

• Feelings of being different.

• Confusion and sense of inadequacy.

• Being either super responsible or super irresponsible. (Or alternating between these.)

• Lack of self confidence in making decisions, no sense of power in making choices.

• Feeling of fear, insecurity, inadequacy, guilt, hurt, and shame which are denied.

• Isolation and fear of people, resentment of authority figures.

• Fear of anger or bottling anger up till it explodes.

• Hypersensitivity to criticism.

• Being addicted to excitement / drama. (Chaos making.)

• Dependency upon others and fear of abandonment.

• Avoidance of relationships to guard against abandonment fears.

• Confusion between love and pity.

• Tendency to look for "victims" to help.

• Rigidity and need to control.

• Lies, when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
  
  

Are you codependent?

Melody Beattie, author of developed this check list:

• Do you feel responsible for other people--their feelings, thoughts, actions, choices, wants, needs, well-being and destiny?
  
  
• Do you feel compelled to help people solve their problems or by trying to take care of their feelings?
  
  
• Do you find it easier to feel and express anger about injustices done to others than about injustices done to you?
  
  
• Do you feel safest and most comfortable when you are giving to others?
  
  
• Do you feel insecure and guilty when someone gives to you?
  
  
• Do you feel empty, bored and worthless if you don't have someone else to take care of, a problem to solve, or a crisis to deal with?
  
  
• Are you often unable to stop talking, thinking and worrying about other people and their problems?
  
  
• Do you lose interest in your own life when you are in love?
  
  
• Do you stay in relationships that don't work and tolerate abuse in order to keep people loving you?
  
  
• Do you leave bad relationships only to form new ones that don't work, either?
  
  

| Symptoms of Codependency | Codependency Recovery | Boundaries & Codependency |
| Addictions & Codependency | Codependency Books |